Bad for: Conservative people and those in a rush to marry
This is essentially the place for everyone who takes dating seriously, but still wants to have fun and skip the pressure of settling down. Though OkCupid’s advertisements may have “DTF” plastered all over them, the site’s intentions and matchmaking process are no joke.
It might take some time and genuine effort to make a profile, but that’s what you want if you’re looking for something real. You’ll fill out a questionnaire with your answers as well as what you would like your ideal match to answer. This makes the application-building process a lot more fun than other apps, making it feel like an online quiz. It asks a range of questions, from simple stuff to whether you smoke and drink to more intimate things like how many dates you typically wait before sleeping with someone. Pro tip: The app says that the more questions you answer, the better your matches will be. The deeper you go, the more accurate your profile is. In turn, OkCupid will have a way easier time finding matches for you.
A lot of fabswingers those users are older, divorced, and have kids, and there’s a much slimmer selection of young people in that gray area. OkCupid seems ideal for the person who’s trying to marry the next person they date, even if they idea of marriage and kids makes them slightly nauseated.
The LGBTQ community finally has a safe space in the online dating world (that is, one that’s not a super niche lesbian or gay-only app), and those who usually vote liberally can make sure they’re not going on a date with someone whom they’d want to fight on Facebook.
Like we said in our eharmony review, just because you’re bored with Tinder doesn’t mean eharmony (or a site with the same expectation to settle down) is the next step
I’d go as far as to say that OkCupid is the best place to find people who want a partnership to truly be equal – where women won’t be shamed for being breadwinners and where men won’t insist that cleaning is the woman’s job. Get with the times, people.
OkCupid is the dating site version of the left-wing hipster who wears “Make America Gay Again” hats
While browsing through the potential matches in my feed, I didn’t get the vibe that people were 100% ready to settle down – which is fine if you feel the same way, but worrisome if you’re past that phase. Some people seem to be using OkCupid like Tinder and were only visiting, while most will specify exactly what they’re looking for in their bios, so confusion about intentions should be minimal. This isn’t to say that it’s not possible to find your future spouse on here – these success stories prove that you can – just don’t go into it expecting to talk about how many kids you want. It’s serious, but not serious.
And then there’s the political aspect of it. While most dating sites refuse to take sides, OkCupid has made it clear that they care about social justice issues. People who align strongly with the Republican party, are Trump fans, or have religion-backed values or political views may feel a bit out of place here – you’ll probably feel like many of the questions are irrelevant to a relationship, and you probably won’t see a high number of matches with whom you align politically. That’s not to say that it’s not worth a shot, but if you’re trying to cast your net as wide as possible, another site where these issues aren’t highlighted may give you better luck.